One of the most worrying things that are happening now is the widespread of immorality. Afterall, these are from the signs of the Hour. And perhaps, the worst one yet is knowing how the people who have ascribed themselves with the LGBTQ+ are actively pushing their ideologies almost everywhere. So how do we as Muslim parents, protect our children from immorality?
#1 Make do’a to protect our children from immorality
The first is to ask Allah for protection. There is no use worrying if we do not leave our worries to Allah. Because in the end, it is only Allah who can protect and guide us and our children.
More specifically, we can memorise this do’a from our Prophet (salallahu alaihi wasalam) and read it for our children.
اللَّهُمَّ اغْفِرْ ذَنْبَهُ وَطَهِّرْ قَلْبَهُ وَحَصِّنْ فَرْجَهُ
O Allah, forgive his sins, purify his heart and guard his chastity.
[Narrated by Ahmad, at-Tabarani, Baihaqy, Graded Saheeh by Shaykh al-Albani]
What is significant to note about this hadith is, it was actually a do’a that was made by the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasalam) to a young man who asked permission to commit zina (fornication). After a short discussion, the prophet then made this do’a for him.
Read the full hadith here:
“Oh Messenger of Allah, give me permission to commit zina”
#2 Educate ourselves and seek knowledge
There is a scary phenomenon that is happening lately. We see that while the LGBTQ+ agendas are being pushed, there seems to be some callers of Islam who do not seem to have a definite stance towards the issues related. Mercy is not being put on it’s proper place. The lines can get a little blurry from here.
But the main point here is that we must understand our religion and seek it from the people who are truly upon the way of our beloved Prophet (salallahu alaihi wasalam). Especially when we are trying to understand any issues pertaining to the LGBTQ+. Because how then can we explain to our children if we do not know?
Here is a lecture that is worth listening to insyaAllah:
#3 Close the doors of evil to protect our children from immorality
I remembered when I was in my pre-teenage years, YouTube just became a thing. I had access at home and so after school, I would spend my free time watching videos while my parents were working. Then one day, I came across a video of two guys kissing. Allahul musta’an.
SubhanAllah, the harms of media does not only stop at affecting our children’s development, but it also affects our children’s morality.
That was probably more than 10 years ago. Today, we have more than YouTube, with Tik Tok being probably the worst of them all. I can only imagine what sort of content kids these days are exposed to. It’s no wonder we see more, and more people being deviated from their fitrah (natural disposition).
Take a look at how their LGBT agendas have infiltrated the cartoon shows for children!
Take a look at all the doors where deviance may enter our homes! The media, schools, friends, neighbourhood. Then, think of ways to close these doors according to our capability.
May Allah ease our affairs.
#4 Keep our children close
As our children grow older, we realise that we can’t protect them all the time, let alone control them. We will have to let go. But while we can’t protect them, we can still keep them close. And we should keep them close.
While our children are still small and dependent on us, we should try our very best to build a strong relationship with them. Focus on connection. Set healthy boundaries but also be responsive to their emotional needs. Be affectionate just like our Prophet (salallahu alaihi wasalam) towards his children, and make it easy for them to talk to us. And insya’Allah, when they are older, we hope that they will choose us over other people when talking about important issues.
#5 Teach them about gender roles
In today’s world, not allowing our boys to wear a dress is being backwards. Go ahead and do a simple search on google, “How to teach kids about gender roles.” You will see how the searches that come out talk about gender ”equality’ where girls should be allowed to act like boys and vice versa.
In Islam, we know that each gender has different roles and responsibilities. And each gender has certain qualities that are important to have for society to function well. For example, in a healthy marriage, men should have qualities of protectiveness and women should be obedient towards their partners.
So it is only logical that there will be differences in raising our children. The simple reality is that we have to raise boys to be men and our girls to be women.
Just a side note, I really like the example here in this story shared by a sister about how her sons protected her. Do give it a read to have a glimpse on how it would be like if we raise our boys to be men. The Importance of Teaching Our Children Correct Gender Roles
Raise our boys to be men, and our girls to be women
There is more to share on this topic. But to put it simply, the way to raise our boys is for them to emulate their fathers, and for our girls to emulate their mothers. And before that, we ourselves have to be good examples that are worth emulating.
We need to learn about the roles of a man and a woman in Islam, and also how the Prophet (salallahu alaihi wasalam) and his companions were like as men and women who were from the best generations.
So where do we begin when protecting our children from immorality? It begins with us.
May Allah protect us and our families from immorality and deviance.