Memorizing the Qur’an has always been a dream of mine. I started out this journey of mine a little bit late (but never too late insyaAllah). I have my many ups and downs. There were times when I was on the roll, and there were times I took a break a little too long that I lost my momentum due to the many commitments.
Then the biggest commitment came. I gave birth to my son. I struggled even more trying to keep in touch with the Qur’an. It took me a very long time to get back on track.
The first few months were the toughest. My body was still recovering and there was also this tiny human that I have to take care of. With the lack of sleep and my little one constantly demanding attention, I was low on motivation.
How to keep in touch with the Qur’an after having children
There were some things that I know I could do better in my efforts of memorizing the Qur’an when I first became a new mother. Perhaps I needed a little push, some motivation, or some helpful tips. Whatever it is, I hope that you can do better than me.
So here are some tips that I have gathered as a new mother struggling to memorize the Qur’an.
1. Believe that you can do it
So many mothers have totally put their memorization aside. To be honest, at certain points, I had wanted to do the same too. I felt like there were already so many things on my shoulders, being new mom.
Maybe you are overwhelmed like me. Maybe you are a working mom, a mom of four, a single mom. Or maybe not even a mom yet.
But I want you to realize this; the more we stay connected with the Qur’an, the more barakah will be put into our lives. And whatever burdens that are weighing you down will be lifted by Allah, the most Merciful.
The only thing that is stopping you and I from pursuing our dreams of memorizing the Qur’an is ourselves.
There are millions of people in this world who have accomplished this seemingly impossible task of memorizing a whole book, word by word. It is proof that the Qur’an is a miracle and that it is not impossible to achieve it.
The Qur’an is easy to be memorized and none other than the All-Knowing has affirmed it:
وَلَقَدۡ يَسَّرۡنَا ٱلۡقُرۡءَانَ لِلذِّكۡرِ فَهَلۡ مِن مُّدَّكِرٍ۬
And We have indeed made the Qur’ân easy to understand and remember, then is there any one who will remember (or receive admonition)?
Let that resonate well.
We can definitely do it, insya’Allah. Even if it’ll take us years.
2. Utilize your phone well
I get it, sometimes we’re just too tired to want to think and we turn to social media which requires way less thinking. And sure, there may be beneficial stuff posted in there but admit it, most of the stuff we stopped to read are the ones which waste our time.
So if we really want to seriously memorize the Qur’an, we have got to cut of unnecessary distractions. Delete those apps.
The next step now is to use the Qur’an app that has been sitting in our phones and actually open it as often as we open our WhatsApp. The first few months of being a new mom for me was actually one of the most peaceful times to use my phone while breastfeeding. Use that opportunity to read at least a page of the Qur’an or perhaps just a few verses.
I know a lot of people would prefer reading from the mushaf. But, do not be deceived by the shaytaan and put off reading the Qur’an completely just because you can’t get hold of the mushaf.
First of all, your phone is there within your reach, at your convenience. Secondly, even if you are impure due to nifas (the blood that comes after birth), you can still recite the Qur’an without touching the mushaf.
3. A little is better than none
Keep on revising your past memorization even if it is at a little at a time. It doesn’t matter if it is just one juz a day, or one page or even just one verse. Indeed the best deeds are those which are consistent even though it is little.
Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said,
“Do good deeds properly, sincerely and moderately and know that your deeds will not make you enter Paradise, and that the most beloved deed to Allah is the most regular and constant even if it were little.”
(Sahih al-Bukhari 6464)
4. Finding the best time
It is said that the best time for memorizing and reviewing the Qur’an is before or after Fajr. However, when you are a mother, the best time is practically any time that your baby is not demanding for your attention. Be flexible with yourself especially during your first few months.
Your newborn needs a little time settling into this world and so do you. Until your little one is well adjusted and has a developed his own little routine, just recite whenever you can while you can.
5. Track your progress
Set a target for the day. Let’s say, today I aim to review just a page. Write that somewhere or make a mental note, and tick when you’re done. It gives you little sense of accomplishment and perhaps some motivation for the next day.
6. Get some support
A few years ago, a sister of mine and I used to go to a weekly hifdz class at a local masjid. Both of us eventually stopped due to commitments. We managed to memorize a few chapters of the Qur’an and we never really moved on since we stopped attending the class.
Now that both of us are married with our own children, we decided to get back on track with our memorization. We decided to track each other’s progress via WhatsApp. The system we set was simple. Just dedicate 30 minutes a day to revise the pages we used to memorize and update each other at the end of the day.
So if you can find someone who you can get some encouragement, that would be absolutely fantastic.
7. Qur’an Class
Last but not least. This may be a little hard for some mothers. This point here requires a little arrangement and help from your spouse or anyone you can trust your kids with. I had a little issue with this too. I can’t leave my baby for too long because he is still breastfed. Alhamdulillah, I found my solution.
I signed up for an online class which only required me to commit to 3 classes per week, for half an hour for every session. The website is called Madinah Qur’an Academy. I have been attending the lessons for about a month plus now and the experience has been good so far. The teacher that I got is professional and knowledgeable.You can check it out yourself insya’Allah.
Never stop memorizing the Qur’an
I want to remind you and myself that being able to memorize the Qur’an is a huge blessing from Allah. It may be tough, but never ever stop your journey. In reality, you are not the only one who preserves the Qur’an. Rather, the Qur’an preserves you too.
As a mother, life can be pretty hectic and tiring. So many mothers out there are talking about how to stay sane, how to maintain good mental health, how to care for ourselves after having children. In actual fact, we Muslims do not have to look far.
The solution is right before our eyes. The book of Allah, the Qur’an, is a cure. When you take care of your relationship with the Qur’an, Allah will definitely take care of you, oh mothers.
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